I could come up with some valid excuses
tons of house guests
a million kids to feed.
But I know these are all lies.
I know it takes no time at all to pay attention to my body’s hunger.
I could easily have made time to exercise.
I only tell myself the truth
because there’s nowhere to go if I’m in Excuseland –
I got nothing to work with.
The truth is
I chose to disconnect from my body.
and the result of that is weight gain.
The other place I refuse to go is to recriminations, regret, anger, or guilt.
Any thoughts that would cause these feelings,
“you shouldn’t have eaten so much”
“you should’ve worked out”
and all the variations on the ‘shoulds’ and ‘shouldn’ts’ just feel too mean
I used to live in Should/Shouldn’t Land for many years.
Used up all my mental and physical energy.
The other day I told my sister-in-law I felt like a beached whale,
and I swear,
that thought was so exhausting and draining I had to lie down!
My daily practice is to find thoughts that feel good about any circumstance
(even gaining weight)
as I know that I achieve my desired results when I live in Feel-good Land.
I tried on
“this is good for me to experience what many of my clients are stuck in – it will make me a better and more compassionate coach”
I already experienced this for many years – got a lifetime of memories to draw on
and I’m already a good and compassionate coach.
Positive thoughts that aren’t true are not much help.
Then I dug a bit deeper, and found the true source of my preoccupation with this excess weight.
I have a few appearances scheduled this month.
and I want to look thin
because after all, I’m a weight loss coach.
I went to some crazy places in my mind:
“Maybe I should call Andrea and get that brown rice diet she did?”
“Maybe I’ll just do fruits and veg for the week?”
These may sound normal to you
but for a weight loss coach who teaches internal control in order to reach our natural weight,
these options are exactly what I coach my clients away from.
So… while I was mulling all this over yesterday,
I also decided to simply do what I do
eat when I’m slightly hungry
stop when I’m slightly full
eat mostly fuel foods that I love
finish the day with a red velvet cupcake in bed with my just-started-high-school-teen
(okay I don’t actually do that every day but boy it was good!)
and I woke up this morning, and weighed over a pound less than yesterday
and I found my thought
“Losing weight is easy”
I have lots of evidence for this thought
I lost 60 pounds with ease,
and I have clients who have done the same.
When I (or my clients) struggle, create drama with crazy diet plans, obsess over a few pounds, and talk mean about ourselves
we make it hard
and then it IS hard.
What can you think today to make it easier for you to create the result you want?