But where’s the struggle?

My client emailed to tell me that my blog doesn’t reflect enough of the struggle.
And here’s why.
There doesn’t need to be any struggle.
Unless you believe there does.

If you want weight loss with struggle, you’re at the wrong place.
There are tons of crazy diet places that will satisfy that requirement.
I’m sure you’ve tried many of them, so you know what I mean.

What I offer is weight loss with lots of love and discovery.
Transformation too, if you do the work.
Lots of hard work, no struggle.
Time, to do the work.
Openness, to find the thoughts.
Struggle? Only if you resist. And then we’ll find the reason for the resistance.
And if you’re open, we’ll change it. And start again.
Sound too good to be true? Try it. You may love it (and end up loving yourself too).

Weight loss coaching, the way I do it, takes you through a process of discovery.
Of your body – hunger and movement requirements to function at your best.
Of your feelings – allowing yourself to feel them instead of burying them with food.
Of your thoughts – finding why you eat the way you do.
Then changing them to create the results YOU want.

How long until you feel better?
My goal: instantly, during our first call you’ll start to feel  better.
Then, you may feel worse for a while as you discover some nasty thoughts and feelings that were hiding inside you.
This we celebrate. We bring them out, shine a flashlight on them, unravel them, and replace them with better-feeling thoughts.
It’s simple if you believe it can be.
It’s a struggle only if you believe it must be.

For this client, her belief that losing weight must be a struggle was exactly what was keeping her from releasing her excess weight.
She didn’t want to struggle.
But she didn’t believe it could be done without.

A coaching session of detective work revealed this core belief: “all success requires struggle”.
This belief was built up through years of childhood struggle to be a good student and sportswoman.
She identified this belief a year ago.
And chose to keep it then– she chose to believe in the struggle instead of the peace.

A month ago, she examined it again and discovered that the opposite is just as true.
She found lots of evidence, in her life and others’, that “success can be achieved without a struggle”.
She chose to ditch her attachment to the struggle.
How? She replaced  that limiting thought with a thought that made her feel way better:
“Maybe I can lose weight without a struggle”

And guess what?
She did.

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About Forever Free with Bev Aron, Certified Weight Loss Coach

I work with emotional eaters who desperately want relief from emotional eating, but can't seem to do it on their own. They know they need to eat less and move more, but can't figure out why they aren't doing it. My specialty is showing them the why and the how. I also work with parents who are worried about their children's weight. I help those parents encourage their children to have a healthy body image and a healthy relationship with food.
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